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To: From: Sent Mon 12/10/2018 5:59:39 PM Subject RE: and Happy to revisit. I is very easy to underestimate the amount of time that he actually has to mess on that phone, we need to get the app mana has that you can set a limit on his phone and it will auto shut down once the limit is reached. You can also see how much time he spends on the phone in aggregate. Ask her what it is Original Message From: Sent: Monday, December 10, 2018 12:57 PM To: Subject: Re: MI and wow. ok. I agree with you completely -..you seem to think I don't, but I am on board. I do not want a looser son. Agree he lives quite well and really doesn't even know it. I think we need to all revisit this tonight. > On Dec 10, 2018, at 11:31 AM, wrote: • > Dinner sounds good > I do not know who else the Crawford's are really friends with. They are an anomaly to me. Despite liking them I do not feel I will ever get to know them. I also do not know who else I would invite. I think folks that are natural fits seem to be happy to not have Fred in the mix. I.e. Wilson's. > Basketball just seems so odd this year. I do not feel connected to anyone but the Wilson's. > I gave 10 chances to do the right thing. He chose to not do the right thing. e needs to understand that in life bad decisions can be very costly. It may be a bad grade on a test. Bad grade on a test leads to bad grade in the class, it just keep going and leads to bad future with no prospects in life. Being hopeless and scared and a terrible place to be . > We demanded very little of him yesterday. He helped me for 15 min then left and spent 90 minutes with a friend, he played basketball in a fun game. he went and wrapped gifts for one hour by the time he got there with a bunch of his friends by the way. He did bottles and cans for 20 min so he has $25 to spend not for my or your benefit. He did a 35 min workout that was overall pretty easy since he was sore. > I knew exactly where I tossed the phone into soft grass. It would not break and if it did it is our phone not his. He can go by a phone with his own money and get his own plan. EFTA_R1_01075443 EFTA02269338 • > Do you think has a phone, do you think Edwin has an x box. Why do you think asked for board games. > You fail to realize that ■ is in one of the most challenged positions in America today, He is a rich, white man, from a rich town with rich parents. Society chooses to believe that he and we have done nothing to achieve our success. It will be hard to get into school. People will be offered jobs who are lesser than him for diversity. It is what it is but it is fact. > So my entire point to1.s he needs to choose when he does things. If he chooses not to read all weekend then he needs to get it done. if he chooses to go to a friend's house that is his choice. If he chooses to play video games until 12:30 am on Saturday and then first thing he did when he got up is go turn on the video games, not go see Gemma, not get food. Video games > Bad choices are very very expensive over time and at a certain point it is too late to fix. He is quickly getting to the place in life that he will not be able to fix getting bad grades. Schools will look at his grades from 9th grade on. > I do not care if Ills thinks I am tough and all his friends parents are far more lacks. > 1 yes he is correct it is easier for his friends. Most of them are soft, their parents are soft and they live and a soft world. > 2 II friends are probably academically far far smarter than III They can do twice as much in half the time with less effort. Rich Levine, Chris Hannan, Brad Quilici, Travis Bradford and on and on. His friends are the same > Resilience is what will breed success. Not softness. • > I had this conversation with Ty last night. and if he chooses to spend his time unwisely it will cost him now because I refuse to back down. The real cost will be so apparent in 5 years when he is accepted at no schools, get a shitty job, has a shitty car, lives in a shitty rodent and insect infested apartment, and ,if he is lucky, has any women that finds any of that attractive. But, trust me, it will not be women like you, or Paula or any of the girls he chooses to waste his day away snap chatting with. They will be long gone with men who can support them, their kids and the endless gym memberships, lunches all week in towns like New Canaan and Birmingham, Range rovers and diamonds. And vacations in South Beach, the Caribbean and Europe. > You tell me what door do you want for your son > Door #1 work hard, really hard now, Think his dad is a dick but I can live with that. and by the way, I actually think understands I am the way I am and for the most part every prediction I make is co > Door *2 shitty everything and fear of not knowing where the next dollar is going to come from > And the reality is, it does not only cost II. It cost you and me. because long term if we do not keep pressing now, we have an unequipped human with no concept of reality is utterly unresilient and a quitter. Do you think your sister, if she could go back in time 18 years, would change anything? > I would not change anything I have done so far. I have the perfect case study. I look at him every time I look in the mirror. And by the way, Illis a significantly better athlete then I ever was, and much smarter. He will also be taller and heavier. I too top it off, he has parents and an nanny who have EFTA_R1_01075444 EFTA02269339 invest far more in him than my parents ever did. > So Peanut forget the excuses, stop enabling and push him harder. Maybe read the Tiger mom book Your son will thank you someday. • Ori inal Messa e > From: > Sent: tir amii ece er , > To: > Subject: Hi > Hi. • > -tonight I think you eat the left over pork stir fry and ty will eat pasta and meatballs. > -do you want to invite the Crawford's (iincluding ethan) over sat Dec 22? Maybe another couple I'm just not sure who. Or more? I'd be up for 3 couples. > -I want to discuss last night. I really think it could have been handled differently. I don't know what you discussed with 'Wafter I went to bed. I would like to know. I think ty deserved to talk with his friends for 20 min(when they are all 'on line' also 8:30-8:50pm) then study and read in bed to fall asleep.. Giving ty a little bit of space is not a bad thing. He will be a happier person for it. We demanded of him a lot yesterday and he got no reward (reward in his eyes would be 20 min to chat with his friends). He deserves it. We need perameters. If he got to chat he would then have to study. > Throwing a $1200 phone out the door does not show ty good judgment, behavior or a great way of handling a situation. I realize you were trying to make a point but had it broken or froze-then what?. almost threw the big flash light into our foyer and would have thrown it hard too. I'm glad he had the sense not to do it. (But after watching you it would be hard to blame him) Another thing- we are always on top of to get himself organized with friends and that is what he wanted to do. Make dates to do stuff after school this week. This being said he also needs to allot time for homework and studying. Managing being a good parent is hard and I think you do a great job most the time. But last night was not good. What was the end result last night? I gave IN his phone this morning as we left the house. He seemed in good spirits. And he liked the chocolate Chex cereal. We had that already (I did not buy it yesterday) I think he must have not seen it last week. It is low in sugar > Sent from my iPhone • > This email and any files transmitted are confidential and intended for institutional investors and is not subject to all of the independence and disclosure standards applicable to research reports prepared for retail investors. This electronic communication has been prepared by Tourmaline Partners, LLC for distribution to Tourmaline Partners, LLC ("TOUR") clientele. This communication is not intended for public dissemination and the recipient is EFTA_R1_01075445 EFTA02269340 prohibited from sharing this information. 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